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With all that you do, you sound like a great guy. She justs needs to show you the appreciation you deserve. Yes and girls that get their *** beat are over their man because they want to keep him as happy as possible in fear that he's gonna lash out at them. Do not compare yourself to that kind of person. Your duties adjust in every family. Do what works. My man cuts the grass, and after dinner he washes my sons while I clean the kitchen. He pays the bills so I do the housework...

dude, you will be a different person when your 27 and right now the age difference is probably causing you problems as she sees you as a kid - no offense .. but if you can hang in there a few more years things will be totally different when you become more mature and confident, trust me i was in a similar situation before

i feel ya there is a 8 year difference between me and my wife, due to 2 bad marriages b4 me she has always had her guard up, women get set in there ways just as men do, i was raised very old fashioned,very..... so i was raised that man is head of the home, man speak woman listen... well i have also learned about compromize ... tell her u want me to be the man, let me be the man.. as in the hitting tell her would u like it if i hit u? or what has worked for me is bearhug , she starts to hit bearhug her and dont let go till she calms down,now does she want a man in her life or a teenage boy who just does chores and is a human punching bag, yelling should not be tolerated tell her from here on out if u yell i will yell see how she likes it, you give her a taste of her own medicine she will realize that hey this aint gonna work, men have honey do's and the list never ends... but at 5yrs old they can start learning responsibility as well, start with tellng ur step daughter i will buy u something once a week candy , toys,ect... or make it a big thing ipod, video game,ect... and do it once a month, ur duty is to take care of ur family if u have to work 20hrs a day to do it,so be it, but on that note say me man u woman me work u cook ,clean , put out ect... take care of u when ur home, she may have to help at times by getting a part time job, but that is where compromise comes in, good luck......

Your age has nothing to do with it. You own up to your responsibilities and your are saying just that.She is showing you no respect. Maybe she feels like you don't love her. I don't know it is a mystery. You either get counseling get divorced or do nothing. She should not feel comfortable hitting you.

A man's duties in a marriage is to be supportive, respectful and always there when she needs you the most. The same has to come from her too.

I think that you're right about the age difference thing.I have to check myself in my own marriage sometimes because of it. I'm only a 2 years older than my hubby, but I knew him since daycare when the age difference actually kind of mattered. Sometimes I catch myself being bossy, or treating him like a baby, or totally discounting his ideas as irrational, etc...I try not too, I love him very much and I know that he needs respect. A man's duties as a husband, father, etc... vary from family to family, honestly. I personally am a stay at home wife, and we don't have kids yet, so... his duties might change when he's a father, but for now, his only duty is to work, bring home a paycheck, cut the grass on the weekends and barbecue some pork tenderloin occasionally. I take care of all of the housework and finances. He might have to pitch in a bit more when we have kids, as we plan on having them one right after the other, but for now, he's got it easy :-) ..

punxsutawney phil is rightWhat your really lacking is CONFIDENCE. Most of the time the man is older because he will have that all important confidence. Does not mean you can't.Men where created to take the lead. Women, even unconsciously, lack respect for those who don't. That does not mean dominate or abuse. IT means seeing what needs to be done and doing what it takes to get it done. You may have to say NO. Part of living is relaxingYour list is pretty good and I think you are on the right track.The only thing I disagree with is letting her hit you, lest its bondage. Take some stock on yourself and see yourself as a man then she will also.

Oh my!Young man. You are on the right track. You have some things figured out at a tender age that is normally reserved for an older person. That's okay. Now you just have to work what you are discovering to be a fundamental law, as true as the law of gravity, into your existence so that you can find a common ground on which you can reasonably coexist.Love your wife. Pour love into her everyday several time a day. Make her feel like she is the most loved person in the world. The Word of God says in Ephesians 5:26 "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."It would appear that you are willing to do this but see others around you not doing that and getting more favorable results. What you cannot know is what is going on behind closed doors. Most of the time when couples head for the courtroom, we hear the word, "They seemed so happy together." Dirty little secrets abound so don't let what appears to be quick, easy, and profitable to sway you from taking the hard way around. Marriage is an investment and you are the man. You are the the one who is primarily responsible for the route this ship is going to sail no matter what the passengers might say.Remember, the role of a man is to serve and protect sacrificially. So many men these days are seeking to be served. Its the other way around. You are to put your life on the line to protect your family and most men have no problem wiuth that. Most men would die for their loved ones. The question is will you live for them? Will you "die to self." That is, make your own needs continuously subordinate to the needs and wants of your family so much so that if anyone at anytime ever asked them if you loved them the answer would be that you loved them more than anyone in the world loved them. Can you love them like that?That's what a man is called to be.And, little brother, believe it or not, you are on the right track. You just can't get there by yourself. This world is controlled by factors that are intent on destroying relationships like the one that you have. Get your family into a bible-based local church and serve. Don't just attend...serve. Try God for yourself and see what happens. It's the best investment you'll ever make.

i love my husband for soo many kinds of reasons... he has his duties at home and i have mines... i'm a stay home mom and it is really hetic..... i keep the house clean.. i cook... i do whatever is neccessary to keep him happy... and when he comes home from work.... if the grass is gettin high up... he goes and cut the grass and i'd always love to cut the grass as well.. so we like to take turns... but he rather not have me do it... which is kinda sweet.... of course i think the trash is a men's job... since they hardly lay a hand on any kind of chores in the house... usually that would help the ladies out.... and i'd made it to be his chores since he doesnt really do much... he keeps the house maintain... he's a really handy man and he keeps himself busy w.manly chores..... as long as i make him happy and he makes me happy and we still have time to be together with the kids... we're great..! if your wife askes you to help change the diaper.. go for it... even if it stinks... she'll learn to appericate you more and not just that... YOU HAVE TO MEET HER HALF WAY.....

Read Ephesians 5:25-33 even if you are not religious. It will help you. After you read it, ask your wife to read it with you. Let her know that you love her and want her to show you more love because you want to remain happy and you want to be the husband that God wants you to be. Sometimes the pressure of children around can be burdensome. Just remain faithful. You sound mature for your age and you sound like a loving husband. You could be doing a lot of things like hanging out with friends all the time, etc., but you are not. If you have parents or God parents, then I would suggest that you leave the children with them to spend time together. It would be worth it. Keep loving your wife and believe you will be happy in your marriage even after 20 years. It is possible. May God bless your marriage abundantly.