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I am reposting this as dumb judgemental people were answering and not even answering my question...Should I get a lawyer for my child support case?AND PLEASE ANSWER WITHOUT ANY JUDGEMENTS OR RUDE COMMENTS.Im 30 years old and a VERY RESPONSIBLE WOMAN. I just gave birth to a beautiful girl 5 mths ago. thefather (baby's Daddy or BD) wants nothing to do w/her which is fine as it was my choice to keep the baby not his. I am one who does believe in a womens right to choose, however I could not go through abortion. I have always been responsible and when my BD & I were dating I had always made sure we use safe sex, however one night he decided to take the condom off halfway through sex and I didn't tell me for his selffish reasons cause he was always begging me to have sex without a condom and I didn't realize he did this till it was too late. In any caseand I eneded up pregenat and he deceded to leave me as soon as he found this out. I of courses applied for child support. of course Child support (C.S.) had us do a paternity test and it is his.. In any case we were suppose to have our court date last week to determine the amount of $ for child support, however I got a phone call frm C.S. stating that the court date has been extended til July as my BD has now retained an attorney and his attorney needs to review the case.This worries me as he comes from a very well to do family (ive never meet them), in fact my BD's father is actually a lawyer that owns his own law firm..a pretty well known big law firm. I had thought that my BD would never tell his family. and I am not sure if he actually did I am just assuming he must have since he got a lawyer now. I was actually hoping he wouldnt because i knew his parents were high class, plus I assumed if he is this way, his parents must be worst as the apple doesnt fall far from the tree. Im worried now that he has a lawyer & probably a good lawyer from his fathers firm & I may not get any or very little child support. I am thinking about getting a lawyer myself, though Inot sure if it worth the money. Any advice will help. I don't know if this helps either, I am in the state of CA, also both my BD and I used to work together but I quit the job a month ago becuase of him and got a new job and from what i hear through friends he has just quit the job as well - though I am not sure if he got a new job, I am assuming he did as he is not the type to not work.

I do not see how a lawyer can help him in this situation -- he is the father of the baby and law requires that he support it. However, if it were me in this exact situation, I'd get a lawyer just to be safe. Spend a little extra money now to have additional income for your child for 18 years... it's worth it.As a side note, if my boyfriend got me pregnant and wanted me to abort it but I said no, I would not require him to pay child support. However, it's different for your situation if he took off the condom without you knowing. That's just wrong.

Yes, get a lawyer.You don't know what BD (Big Dummy) is going to do for a defense. What if he contests paternity and has a high-priced expert who will discredit the test. It sounds crazy, but if you have enough money, you can get an expert for just about anything. Then again, they may admit he is the father and cause a long drawn out trial as to what, if any, support he has to pay. And what if he wants custody??!!You need a lawyer that can advise you so you will know what the risks are and how to negotiate a resolution you can live with. If you don't have a lawyer, they will try to take advantage of that fact in the worst way, and I think that would truly be a huge injustice in this case.

Lawyers are spineless cowards and a waste of money. Save it for your daughter. It doesnt sound like the BD would have stayed with you with or without your daughter. I say have him reliquish his parental rights. Then if he softens up 10yrs from now, too bad mofo.

You need to retain the services of an attorney as soon as you can. Under the law of all 50 states, he owes a duty to support the child from the moment of birth until that child reaches majoirty. (which age may vary from state to state). Only an attorney qualified to practice in your state can advise you on the procedures, and why would you ask anyone who isn't qualified for advice?If you don't have the money for an attorney, you are in luck in this situation. Contact your state's social services office, and they will assist you with obtaining an Order of Paternity, and child support. Then, the court's child support office will try to enforce it.CAVEAT: They try hard. They are understaffed and underfunded. For faster results, you're going to have to hire private counsel. For enforcement, you can rely on the state, or private counsel.For a referral to private counsel, consult your local or state bar association.