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I just turned 21. My mom is very strict with me. I can barely go out and chill with my friends and barely have any because I'm home 24/7. When I had a job, I wasnt allowed to go anywhere after I got off. And when it comes to going out with my boyfriend (if im coming home @ 10--my curfew) I have to drag my little brother along...he's 17. I was supposed to go to my friend's house after my birthday dinner at a restaurant. My dad said that I could go but my mom intervened and said it was too late to be out....it was only 10pm. I just dont think that she's being fair with me. She has always been this way with me...especially after we moved here in FL 5 yrs ago. I used to accept it because I was younger but I'm 21 now and she still treats me like a child! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and have been engaged since last year. We've been talking about moving out together. My mom is also very traditional so she wouldn't want me to move out b4 getting married. I dont know what to do =[

yes, you are a adult not a child

may be! but I say try no too! coz there are advantages with it.

have a mother and daughter conversation. tell her about your problem, how you feel. a true mother understands. =) i know that's how im like with my children.

As long as you are in your Mom's house you will be under her rules. I hope you can get an apartment of your own. Maybe with some girl friends. If you move in with you boy friend you will just justify her fears.

try talking to her first and let her know what you feel. No matter how awfully strict your mother is, im pretty sure she's done those things and she's still doing it for a good reason. But let her know and make her realize that you're old enough and can definitely be trusted. If talking didn't help, I guess its time to move out on your own.

rebel! you are 21! there is NO way she can stop you! i moved out when i was 20. you are an adult. she is treating you like my dad did when i was 16! your mom cant keep you forever and you need to let her know that! move out with your man! no mater what she says. its not her decision anymore...

Just move, GOD, just move. If you had no other choice but to stay with your parents because you don't have the money to then you have no other choice but to stay. Since you have a choice to move just move. Also if you move in with your Boyfriend now you could see how it's like to live with the guy before marrying him. It just help you get use to the idea. My mom is same but I won't say she is traditional. she just don't want her kids leaving her. when my sister move to the dorms she got pissed and said it cost too much money to move out which my mom didn't have to pay for it. My mom was happy that I lived at home for school but every time I bring up about a subject like moving away in the future she would get pissed. If I had the money to move I would.

yes

the easiest option her would be to move out, but living on your own isnt as easy and fun as it sounds.since you are 21 now, you're not a baby anymore so you should have someone telling you that you cant stay out past 10pm.have a good open hearted talk with your mom, dont approach in a negative way or dont attack her, but remind her that you arent a kid anymore and you would to be treated like your age, and let her know too that even thou you are an adult but dont have the life experiences as a true adult yet that you would like a chance to try and prove you can be responsible, not just to her but to yourself. i didnt move out til i was married, and honestly its the best way cuz living together before you are married knda takes the fun out of it.but anyways thats my opinionbut go ahead and have a good talk with your mom