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divorce (she's crazy), she is finally in the process of getting one, a no-contest, because we have no shared property, assets together, no bank accounts in same name, no kids. I wound up moving back to Seattle, where I"m from, she's still in bum-f u c k Ohio. I hate Ohio. I moved out there for her, the place sucks, cold and snowy in winter, hot and humid in summer, it's flat, the people aren't friendly and there are no good jobs. We were with each other 2 years before moving to Ohio, she wanted to live closer to her Mom. I never adjusted well there, no friends, etc, all my friends were in Seatte, we fought alot, then make up sex, that was the cycle for the first 6 months of marriage, well it's finally over, she is in the process of getting the divorce finalized. I was always a happy kid, now I feel old, tired, sore, worn out like a beaten dog, and I'm only 34, I'm very depressed that I will never be or maybe see her again. I"m starting over. I moved in with folks, suggestionsShe was very emotionally abusive. It sucked. She was immature at times, she would actually throw her wedding ring at me and say she wanted a divorce. My folks have been together 40 years, all my brothers and sisters have been married, none divorced, I think I'm the first in my family ever to get a divorce, I'm shameful. She was married once before, 5 years ago, it only lasted 4 months. I guess she has some serious problems.She was very emotionally abusive. It sucked. She was immature at times, she would actually throw her wedding ring at me and say she wanted a divorce. My folks have been together 40 years, all my brothers and sisters have been married, none divorced, I think I'm the first in my family ever to get a divorce, I'm shameful. She was married once before, 5 years ago, it only lasted 4 months. I guess she has some serious problems.We have no kids by the way. I"m 34, she's 30. Both Leo's

You souind a little clearer from the last post. Yoiuve done the right thing just kjeep it up, and keep her out.

i guess you hated ohio for a lot of reasons including your marriage. new road....back in your own safe oregon...start kicking up the dust and dont look back.

WOW, it sounds like you've been through a rough few years.I agree with you about OHIO, it's just too flat, lol. I used to live in Michigan & had to drive through OH to get anywhere; the part of any trip on I-75 through OHIO was the worst of it.I'm sorry that you couldn't make it work; it sounds like you still care for her. It also sounds like she chose her family over you, though.You did a good thing moving back to where you were happy & your family will be able to help you get through it & move on to something better.I wish you the best. Hang in there, life goes on, with or without her.

She sounds a little emotionally abusive, as if you were the one giving into her needs with no reciprication or appreciation, and in the end, you are the one who paid most emotionally as you made more sacrifices for her, this is common for you to feel how you do. Moving in with parents is hard after divorce too, it's down time in your life. Divorce makes people feel as if they have failed in some way, and at 34, ,you "feel" done. But you are not, it will take time for all the adjustments you are making to settle in. It sounds to me like she would never be pleased, as if there was no winning no matter how hard you tried. Know it wasn't all your fault, she played a 50% role as well. Focus on ourself now, but don't totally ignore your feelings for her or you may have issue swith your next love, deal with and accept how you feel for her untill it's out of your system, and know that it may take time, more than you might think. Feeling beaten and tired indicates you were trying very hard to make the relationship work, which is a good thing with the right person, with the wrong person it just beats you down until you feel the way you do. Keep your head up, 34 is not really that old. You sacrificed a lot by moving to Ohio for her and it sounds like there was no understanding of what you did.. for her.Best of luck.

After that rollercoaster, you need some r'n'r. Reconnect with your friends and enjoy your freedom. Get yourself a job you enjoy, and start to make plans for your life, one step at a time. One day you will look back and realise that this was one of the best things that ever happened to you. Good luck.

What's your question? I seemed you have gotten what you really desire by getting rid of her as your spouse. There is no sense at all in going back to spilled milk. It's over and good for both of you. You have to move on and get the divorce papers finalized and begin your new journey as a new man with at least some lessons learned from the short lived marriage. You are still young and having a potential of unlimited degree if you manage your life well. Your family will understand you and may even be the source of renewed strength!

LOL, it sounds so familiar...Count your starts and consider yourself VERY FORTUNATE that you're divorcing this woman (and that you have no kids or property).Don't ruminate and dwell over this bs that none of your relatives has divorced -- again, consider yourself lucky.Hire an attorney, stop communicating with her IN ANY WAY and move on.